Archive for Relationships and Sex

Gentleman’s Club

I had dinner tonight with a gay couple – we meet every 6-8 weeks and catch up on life, work, stuff. I LOVE their relationship. And I don’t like relationships. It is loving, honest, open, supportive, collaborative, respectful, intimate, and joyful. It is everything I want. I have seen them raise a son together, traverse […]

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Reality TV and Public Health: Beware the Messenger

Does Kim Karsdashian really have a place castigating MTV’s glorification of Teen Mom’s as a facilitator of teen pregnancy ( http://marquee.blogs.cnn.com/2011/01/21/kim-kardashian-blames-mtv-for-teen-pregnancies/ )? After all, it was she that took some creative shortcuts to get to the top of the food chain in Hollywood – and it worked out well for her. She turned some interesting […]

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Deprivation and Gratitude: Musings on Marriage

I was recently in Washington DC, and some of the work I did there involved reviewing documents that support same-sex marriage on the basis of loads of research. Bottom line – there are mountains of psychological evidence pointing out the idea that this is a fine idea. (now, I think marriage is a bad idea, […]

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Women, Girls and Practical Choices

By my estimation – where girls, women and feminism are – we have not come that far. I have a nagging sense that the competitive burdens being heaped on young women to gain admission to the most elite colleges, professional schools and the like represents a long, arduous route to old story of university as […]

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The Myth of Marriage, Friendship, and Fidelity

I am against marriage – I don’t make any bones about it. And today I think I read one of the best arguments against the stultifying institution of lifelong intimate partnership. MSN .com (http://glo.msn.com/beauty/are-you-unfaithful-6116.gallery?gt1=49006) featured a piece on cheating – and the upshot was that if you even speak to a member of the opposite […]

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What happens after the wedding?

Celebrity and royal weddings have been all the rage for the past week. Prince William and Kate Middleton. Jessica Simpson and her new guy, Nick Lachey and his gal. And I think I heard that Heidi and Spencer are renewing their vows (aren’t you supposed to do that way down the line – like after […]

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Half of Life is Showing Up: Flakiness and Relationships in Los Angeles

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As a parent, I recognize that these conversations are on my radar – but more and more I hear people pulling at their hair and saying “kids these days are so entitled”, “what happened to manners?”, “kids can’t pay attention to anything” etc. etc. We reap what we sow. I live in Los Angeles, California. […]

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Broken Hearts and Relationships: When the Psychologist Needs a Cardiologist

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Broken hearts are like labor pains.  We forget how badly they hurt because if we remembered we would never have a second child, and we would never take another chance. My heart was broken today.   I am smart, circumspect, use data to inform my decisions, and yet here I was again. How did I fall […]

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Drink, Pray, Indifference – A Love Story for One

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Let me start with a disclaimer. I am sure that Elizabeth Gilbert is a lovely woman. She writes well, she is absolutely charming and beautiful, and I am happy that everything worked out for her. However, I actually skimmed the book and got too aggravated to finish it. In addition, her engaging treatise on marriage […]

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Emergency Chutes: Dealing with Narcissists

Steven Slater. The JetBlue flight attendant who grabbed a beer and jumped down an emergency chute after an altercation with a difficult passenger. Steven Slater may have just been trying to do his job. But that day, like most days he had to deal with someone who was suffering from the great American epidemic of […]

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