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A Silver Anniversary…..

Today marks 25 years since the day I arrived in Los Angeles – a silver anniversary. When I started thinking about this anniversary a few years ago – I thought about penning a love letter to the city of angels. But as often happens in love stories, things change. Ironically, yesterday would have been my […]

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Dancing with Donald

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Ultimately – narcissists are all about window dressing – and Trump is masterful at scoring a trophy wife.

Now he just needs a “trophy-Veep.”

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The perpetrator’s father’s entitled paean to contextualize his son’s crime (“20 minutes of action”) put the lens on deeper issues of privilege, entitlement, a society that perpetuates violence against women and sexualization of girls and women, and our endless focus on achievement over compassion. Are parents so bogged down in their children’s “success statistics” that teaching kids the simple goal of being a good human being is being left at the wayside?

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Warning Labels

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Anyone who has been in a toxic relationship knows that these relationships are likely taking the greatest toll on your health – they are the reason you don’t get enough sleep, that you may rush through meals or eat to cope, that you fall back into unhealthy coping habits such as smoking, drugs or alcohol.

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Til Death Do Us Part………

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If we elect a pathological narcissist, we are headed for the landscape of a narcissistic relationship and all of its disappointing fallout. By and large narcissistic relationships always follow a similar roadmap. Excitement, entertainment, seduction, promise of a bright new future, followed by disappointment, dashed expectations, desolation and abuse.

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The Most Wonderful Time of the Year

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The high expectations of the holidays can sometimes make for a shiny wrapped package that doesn’t deliver. Just like a narcissist. The ongoing emptiness of narcissistic relationships can feel like psychological coal in your stocking.

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A Thank You Note to Donald Trump

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Life has turned into the granddaddy of reality shows – Survivor. We are spending our days figuring out how to “outwit, outplay and outlast” each other. Is it any wonder that Donald Trump’s vitriol and divisive rhetoric are “trumping” many of the other candidates?

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Is Anybody Listening?

Listening is curative in its own right. To be heard, to be understood, to experience empathy – there is no pill that can do that.

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One and a half tickets……

    The envelope antagonized me.   Stared back at me from a bulletin board as a reminder of what was lost, and what still had to be found.   Such is the geography of a broken heart.   As a psychologist, a consistent theme that comes into my office or from friends and family […]

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And they lived happily ever after…..

It started as a farce. I took my daughters for a 24 hour vacation with a Groupon-esque voucher we purchased for a luxe hotel on the California coast we could normally never afford. We figured we would enjoy the coast, the coves, the surf, and the trappings. As we walked through the grounds, we saw […]

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